When everyone is breaking the rules it’s easy to feel left out. You think perhaps you are boring or that you need to live a little. There is nothing better than being carefree right?! I am all about living a carefree blissful life. You can’t truly experience life if you don’t take risks or try something new or that you would have never tried before. With that said, I do believe that you need to create your own rules. Rules that work for you that you reference throughout life. There are many reasons why you should follow your own rules and I hope I can give you some insight into why I feel this way.
Knowing What You Won’t Do
We all need to know what we will and will not do. These are hard fast rules that we follow no matter what. Like, yours might be I don’t do drugs, for some it’s hard drugs. This means even if you are travelling and you’re in Bali having the time of your life at some cool party and everyone else is doing it, you won’t. You’re still going to be there and have fun with everyone else but you decided long ago that this isn’t a territory you want to venture into. For some, they may think you need to live a little. For me, I think we all need to trust our intuition and build our life rules based on this. I am sure, you have had that feeling, “damn I knew this was a bad idea”. If it doesn’t feel right and if you have made a decision you won’t go there, then don’t.
Another example could be boundaries in love. You know what you need and more importantly, you have learned what doesn’t work for you as you begin dating. Your rule might be, I don’t do casual relationships. It’s not that you a “square” as some would say or that you lack adventure. In your case, you don’t feel you need to sleep with multiple partners in hopes of having the “best sex of your life”. You understand who you are, what goes on inside you emotionally and as a result prefer something solid. Since these days kisses aren’t contracts and you may find someone you want to be with and date exclusively for a few months. You understand that this may last only for a moment in time. The most important thing is that it is within the boundaries or life rules that you are comfortable with. As in it’s not casual because this isn’t your jam.
You are a butterfly. Know that every move you make, small or big can shake the earth & change your life – HS
It’s About Setting Your Own Standards – Life’s boundaries
The standard is yours. Wherever you want to set that standard is up to you. Some people may think you keep them very low and others quite high. The life rules you set in place for yourself fall into the standards you set in place. A mark, that says, I won’t go below this or I want it to reach this point or close it. With standards there are rules. Don’t confuse this with a checklist because that implies there’s no room for movement. Standards can change and rules can be built upon throughout your life. The one thing that will stay intact is the foundation of where it started; the why. Further, these standards should always elevate you in all facets.
Your standard may be that everything you do is to support the idea that you live a healthy and balanced life. You can’t accomplish this without having a set of rules, or if “rules” is too strong a word for you, guidelines that help you achieve this goal. Anything that makes you deviate from this ideal won’t go unnoticed because of the internal rule book you have within you. One could liken your intuition to an internal rule book, stop sign, guide, mentor, everything you need within you. If you listen, it’s amazing what can happen. Push yourself to the limit but also know where you shouldn’t go. Not everything is for you and this is okay. Be at ease with this.
Can You Sleep At Night
Life has taught me that those sleepless and restless nights are due to the inner struggle within. The battle of what is, what we should do and what end up doing or not doing. This is your intuition bringing you to awareness. It’s an intuitive shake-up, it’s time for you to wake up. Have you broken the standard, have you deviated from those guidelines your soul has given you? As a result, have you experienced the downfall of this, the uneasiness of knowing it doesn’t feel right? Don’t surrender to this feeling with fear. Surrender to it with openness, compassion and love. This will help you experience a breakthrough that will set you back on course. On the right path designed just for you.
I encourage you to write down your thoughts during this time. Start with “what do I need”. Each day build on this. Then write “what should I do”. Lastly, write, “what’s not needed”. This is how to know what your internal rule book is and how to reconnect with it. The more disconnected we are from this important connection, we are more likely to wander through life haphazardly rather than purposefully.
Once you understand the current, the wave, the ripple you glide down in this life is your own. You feel comfortable in your own skin. What’s happening over there for them, don’t worry about it. Knowing who you are and how your emotions work, getting acquainted with them is empowering.
Ps. Don’t go breaking the law, breaking hearts or acting foolish! This isn’t what following your own rules means. Don’t twist the good to justify the bad. It’s all good here, all love. I want you to live a lovely full life of wonderment.
