We are complete strangers yet you want me to come over to your house. Get to know each other a little better you say. How many hopeful women have fallen under your spell, went against their better judgment and obliged you? I am not that girl for you. Definitely not today. Perhaps I watch too much Dateline 20/20 murder mysteries and quite frankly have no interests in becoming that story. We can meet up for tea, a drink or dinner somewhere. Just know, before you ask, nope she’s not coming over.
I love a good Netflix weekend marathon like everyone else. Sometimes you just want to get that series watched and done with so you don’t spend your whole week thinking about it or trying to fit it in. It bothers me that you, the one who lives by the doctrine called “Netflix and chill” wants to ruin it for me. I know your intentions have nothing do to with what’s on and I really wish you would be a little bit more honest. I think most women will agree with me on this. Cut the bullshit. Girls like to have fun too, you don’t need to deceive us into thinking otherwise. Call it naive, but yeah, she really just came over to watch a movie or get to know you in your space no sex involved. It’s unfortunate that this is all it will ever be for you.
Further, it’s unfortunate that you don’t even value you yourself enough to know the person you are longing to bed. I am not judging those who want a good casual dalliance every now and then. You are free to do whatever you want with your body and time. I am just not into all the head games used to persuade her, me, them into coming over. I know through trial and error you have learned that if you push enough and say the right things or what she wants to hear eventually she will fold and make her way over to your abode. You’re a master at this so there’s no stopping you when she says “hey let’s meet somewhere public or I am not comfortable with that yet”.
Oh, the excuses you will make to get her there. As if somehow her desperation into spending time with you, a complete stranger will kick in. You’re right, many times it has worked out for you and that girl who has her sights set on more decides to be a little more “modern” and come over. When she concedes you feel elated. Nothing but a single lonely girl you can have your way with and then move on to the next. I get it, you are playing the field; having fun. You just need to make sure she is having fun with you. You do know that there are Apps for individuals like yourself who are looking for casual fun? You can find beautiful women there who are on the same page as you.
The most important thing is that you need to respect her desire to take things slow. It’s not cool to manipulate her into doing so. What’s the point? If you can’t be bothered to put in the effort to get to know someone, then why are you wasting your time? Get back to swiping. In the long run, you are doing yourself a favour. Save yourself from the confusion and anger that ensues when she realizes that this “situationship” that she got herself into and you masterfully orchestrated is nothing more than a boy in a man’s body playing games.
I can literally hear some of you gents as I type this saying “oh she’s difficult, oh she’s high maintenance this is why you’re single”. It doesn’t really matter what you say even if she is all of the above. In case you didn’t get it, let me be clear, nope she’s not coming over. She’s not coming over because she doesn’t have to nor does she want to. Imagine if she spent her time going to every mans house who texted her to come over? What a life!… She has a life and knows that she likes to spend time with those who value her; you clearly don’t.
In addition, it’s not that hard to get into a relationship. The challenge is being in a relationship with the right person. For her, the right person is looking for the same thing. They’re just as excited to connect with someone by exploring the world outside of their bedroom to start. They know that this will come later. For now, it’s all about the adventure of getting to know her. If this isn’t you, please keep it moving. Don’t take it personally either when she says to you, nope I am not coming over.
