What do you want? What are your life goals? What’s your plan? I am sure people have asked you this question many times in your life. It is also a question you have pondered. The longer you think about it, there is no concise way to answer this question or answer it well enough to satisfy others. But on a basic level, I think most of us want a fruitful life. We desire a life that is full of love, family, great experience, abundance, and good health. But the question still lingers or finds you in various social situations – do you know what you want out of life? To tell you the truth, I do, as do many of you. I know what my personal life goals are and I certainly know what I deserve. I know that I can design a plan and a strategy and stick to it, but life has taught me that God’s plan and direction will always be greater than mine. This is what guides me. This site has been built in God’s direction. Did I find myself here, or did God lead me here? I know that it has brought a lot of good into my life. What has my strategy been? I will honestly tell you, all the doors that have opened for me have seriously been through faith and seeing the path set before me. I guess the song “Living On A Prayer” by Bon Jovi really does apply to life. You just have to keep on going, have faith and see where life takes you – hopefully somewhere good!
I can’t give you a blueprint on how to do this, because, for me, it was a matter of getting up and doing the damn thing! That’s it. I learned by doing. And not for a second did I look for failures or focus on the idea of failure. Neither should you. We do our best in every given moment. When we put our best into those moments, it will yield results and lessons, and wins. Don’t miss the small wins. Many people often do this during the journey. We definitely see them in our lowest moments. Looking back at the past and seeing all that we missed running towards an envisioned destination. Don’t miss the small wins, there is grace in every moment. Also, don’t let anyone force you to miss them either. The bigger picture is a series of small actions. Here we find our strength and become courageous. We also learn that everything is possible when we have unwavering belief. I want you to have an unwavering belief in yourself. This is imperative. In this life, you will encounter people who do or say things that are not meant to enliven you but push you off your path. The one that God has designed perfectly for you. Why would anyone want to do that? It doesn’t matter. What matters is what you do and what you allow to impact your heart and mind.
What I know now, that I didn’t know 10 years ago, is that what you need out of life is better than what you want. What you need will reveal itself if you allow it to. Also, what you want can be an illusion. I know! There are so many things, people, and ideas of what I wanted that I held onto for too long. One day I let go, and you will let go. And there it is, all that you need rushes into your life. It is overwhelming and beautiful. Nothing that your mind could conceive or dream. Indeed, God does have a plan, and when we take a moment, listen, and look not for what we want to see but for what we need to see, what is shown to us is quite wondrous. We realize that we don’t have to compare ourselves to others or worry if we measure up to someone else’s expectations. In the big picture, these things are small. As you know, people can be fickle. One minute they love you or think you are wonderful, and the next, you just don’t measure up in some way.
During the evolution of self, when you start to see things as they really are. There is no stopping this when you fully surrender to the path destined for you; that calls you to nurture all those parts of you. To heal what has been broken and unearth what you have concealed in fear. Do not fear your greatness. Do not fear the appreciation of self. You are a sovereign soul. You have a purpose and you belong here. You belong here. Say this every day. Because what we all want out of life is belonging. Regardless of how much money we have or notoriety, it is belonging. Don’t look for this in others. It will break you. That’s not to say that you cannot be loved or have people in your life who see the real you and love you and champion and encourage you. It’s that you can’t hang your sense of belonging on others. You belong here and in that room, that good relationship, that dream job, the loving space, you belong. Just remember, it exists within you, and it’s a birthright that you came into this world with.
So stop focusing so much on what you want out of life. Life goals are great, but they should not hold you emotionally hostage. Let life show you what you need. The more you root yourself in belonging, all will be revealed. Throw out that plan, trust your gut, and follow the divine signs, and life will show you what it wants out of you. It will always be the best of you, and it will give it right back to you.
