Is romance dead? This has been a question that has been lingering in my mind for a while now. Have we given up on romance? Or have we forgotten how to cultivate love through romance? Some will say life isn’t a fairytale but I think in life we write our own stories. If you desire to live a life that’s full of passion and love, you must be the driving force to make this a reality. Good relationships require one to fully commit.
Romance isn’t a freelance job that you apply for when you need to fill your love account or desires. Romance is a full-time endeavor. I don’t believe that romance is dead, I think we have become lost in what we believe is modern romance. Yet, modern romance isn’t romantic at all, nor in my opinion liberating. In a time when we can communicate continuously and for the most part choose who we love. We have forgotten a fundamental underlying current that’s needed. Love, this beloved feeling deep within, it’s an action. Beyond that feeling of longing, it is a gesture and it’s dependent on the faith that your beloved will not just tell you they love you, they will show you.
We wonder why our relationships aren’t quite where we want them to be. We are confused by the lack of connection and real intimacy. What we see depicted in movies or what we read feels like an illusion that will never be tangible. For some, romance is fiction and it doesn’t exist. What we fail to realize is that we are the creators of the wonderments that live within romance and love. It’s you who decides the kind of love and partnership you have in your life. From the moment you meet someone, it’s up to you to decide what kind of relationship you would like.
You are responsible for what you bring to the union. It’s not just enough to feel those wonderful feelings. How you’re feeling and what you imagine in your mind must be brought to reality through action. You are your greatest love story that’s ever been written. It may be up to you, to make the one you love a believer in the true essence of romance. Remember, just like you, they fear real intimacy and vulnerability. Two people come together with the belief that love is powerful. That they can live their own fairytale. Unfortunately fear gets in the way. Further, it’s also the notion that romance just comes on its own from some magical place unknown. You are that magical place unknown. Be what you desire.
Open a space within your relationship where romance is a norm. Where there is freedom of exploration without judgment or conditions. When in love you should never fear judgment from your partner when you enact romantic gestures. It’s not uncool to be romantic nor is it crazy. There is nothing wrong with you if you choose to create an environment in your relationship where love can sustain itself long-term.
Knowing that your beloved desires you and that you want them without question will help you build a long-lasting connection. When I say beloved, I want you to understand what this word means. To be loved is an action. Your beloved is a living and acting being the requires you to move.
There’s nothing stifling about being in love if you choose the right person. Sometimes relationships are built on reason or what makes sense. What happens when it doesn’t make sense anymore? The desire to keep a relationship thriving comes from a deeply rooted feeling, that this is right. This is not logic, it’s a knowing feeling. Just like knowing what your purpose in this life is.
When you know it’s the right union, putting the effort will not feel like work. You will not feel like you are giving anything up either. Everything about the two of you together will represent growth, a great continuous addition to your life. A space where you can still cultivate self-love and freely give love.
Why isn’t modern romance liberating? Everyone is afraid to be themselves. We are afraid to reveal that we desire romance for fear of looking delusional, desperate and foolish. We are locked within the confines of making love look like a secondary thing we can live without. Rather than admitting that we need it, we desire it. We long to give love, we long to feel it returned.
Modern romance is judgmental, the perception of how we look outweighs the beauty of what we feel. Therefore, we don’t openly demonstrate how we feel to the one we love. Small romantic gestures become inconvenient and big gestures are far too burdensome. Those who are wild enough to free themselves from the constraints of modern romance are the true heroes of love. When you meet such a person you are fortunate; you are lucky. If you love this person, allow yourself to finally exist in a loving space you desire to be in without fear.
Is romance dead? I don’t think it is. It’s hiding behind the walls you have built in order protect yourself. Why are you pushing away something so great? Living your best life is seeing what you can do to make it happen. To experience true romance you must get gone with the wind lost in it. Who cares if everyone is watching?! You know who you are and you know your worth. You deserve love and the beautiful feelings that burn inside you when you let romance win.
