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Is it possible to find or wait…exeprience love at first sight? Beyond the artificial medium of the lens? These days, people tend to fall in love with what they see more so than what they feel or know. The truth is, I hope you know this, once something is captured in an image it no longer exists in reality. It’s a moment that’s passed, all the emotions, everything hidden within a small space in time. The perfect photo that’s retouched and refurbished for you to fall in love with – an illusion. It’s not that real moments can’t be captured, the problem is the narrative we create about moments or people we don’t know.
Before the internet, before Instagram, Facebook and social apps, capturing and creating real moments through the lens was a bit of a novelty. Most people didn’t carry a camera with them and when they did it was used as a way to remember the moment. So when one thinks of love in the post-modern age, you can’t help but wonder if love at first sight, it’s innocence, is possible anymore.
This Is Love
Love, at first sight, isn’t an illusion, for those not knowing the difference you will learn this soon enough; hopefully. The greatest moment between two beings, fated, must be felt. Beyond measure and beyond appearances. When love happens, in it’s purest form, the feeling is beyond what you see. It’s an all-knowing feeling, that can’t be put into words, it just
What if I told you that all the things I wanted you to love about me are the flaws you can’t live with? Is love flawless? Or is love full of flaws that when we truly love we never see? But there you go, we go, gazing at the image, saying oh I love him/her, they’re perfect. Who is it that you love? What do you see when you look at them? What you feel is far more powerful than what you will ever see. A beautiful rose can dwell in the mud and bloom from the concrete. The same rose, but not just any rose to you because no matter where it lives, you see it and you recognize it because of the way it makes you feel. This is love at first sight. Only the heart reveals true beauty and this lives within you.
In a crowded room, there it is, your perfect rose. You know instantly…why?…it’s because you feel it. I think it’s important for us to stay connected to our feelings. Our feelings are interconnected to our instincts, our intuition. Your intuition is your greatest guide. It’s so easy to rationalize things, to create meaning and then attach an emotion. It’s easy to get attached to what doesn’t feel right if we can make sense of it.
Why You Might Miss Love At First Sight
We have our checklist, we have what we think we see and what others tell us to desire, to want, to love. But in the end, you will never be able to shake that feeling when something isn’t right when it doesn’t flow or when it’s incongruent. For all the toxic relationships we have been in, whoever is to blame, I know you had that feeling deep within that told you this isn’t it.
The problem is, I feel, we think we know the true essence of beauty based on what we see every day. We then allow this ideal to lead us to what we think love is. What love looks like and who looks like they are worth loving. Is our screen lying or telling the truth? Will that one quick swipe to the right turn out to be everything you imagined it would be or were you disappointed once you met them and got to know and see who they really are?
In order for us to connect with our hearts, we must disconnect our minds from everything that’s distracting and obstructive. We need to spend more time discerning what’s authentic and what’s meant for show. We also need to give people an opportunity to reveal their true essence without judgment because love is an open space that embraces everything that is.
Will you experience love at first sight in your lifetime? I hope you do. It’s possible.
