It’s that time when you feel like you are not good enough. When you hold on to the notion that the universe has conspired against you and not for you. It’s that endless loop that plays over and over again in your head. A loop that is a reel of negativity, rejection, and pain. This is what you bring with you wherever you go. It’s what stops you from living in the here and now, being present. We are fragile, all of us, and confronting your fragility in any given moment is hard to do and often overlooked. It’s easier to blame others, it’s easier to point fingers, but the work always starts within, with you.
Where Does Our Fragility Come From?
I should say where does your fragility come from? What is the root of your internal conflict? Because it is a concept with so much complexity and differs for everyone. Our hurt feelings, our covered-up wounds, painful burdens, past rejection, and betrayal make up our fragility. It’s what leads us to self-sabotage.
How easily we can turn something beautiful into something torrid. It’s what leads us to take something good just destroy it. The reason why we don’t see the good in front of us and focus on what isn’t working; ignore the beauty. Why? It’s quite simple, we lack self-accountability. Perhaps it is from childhood or societal conditioning. It can be challenging to really see the power you have to change your circumstances, how you shape the life you live, for the most part.
Obviously, there are unforeseen events or some of you may have been born in a world, a land that completely limits your ability to not only think for yourself but to see beyond turmoil. It is true, it is a luxury to spend time thinking about who you are, how you think, and how you can free yourself from the mental chains that shackle you.
If you are lucky you have confronted your fragility or you are currently coming face to face with it. If so, you are on the never-ending all-encompassing journey of self-work; lightwork. We are lightworkers and we manifest whatever dwells within our beings. Sometimes it takes a person or an event for us to confront our fragility. Maybe it was a lover or missed opportunity or harsh criticism that made you spiral and dive deep into your desire to be wanted and be good enough. How this desire often leads you to a dark or painful place where you feel isolated and alone.
The Fragility Bond
What we all have in common is that we are all fragile and scared. There is no exclusivity to fragility. It’s a club we all belong to. The longing and the desire, the wanting to be wanted and needed. The hope to live purposefully and full. How do we find contentment? How do we find the spaces in between where we feel safe and good enough?
As spiritual beings living this human experience that often pulls us away from our faith. That shows us that darkness can truly dim the brightest light. Where cruelty and harm by others is a bitter reality. And words can change everything you see and believe about yourself. It’s hard not to be fragile and it’s a disservice to pretend.
It is this costume of strength that most of us wear that leads to the challenge of confronting why we do what we do and why we feel how we feel. How this impacts our lives and the good that is trying to enter. Healing cannot begin if we live behind our strong persona. A persona that may work on the outside world. But essentially kills us inside and leaves one wrought with anxiety and disillusionment.
Confront Yourself
I know I have said it’s okay to be vulnerable. I would like to expand this to encompasses fragility. Sharing your feelings means nothing if you don’t confront them with yourself. If you don’t understand why it is so painful or unbearable for you, whatever that this… We can not leave it to others to hold what is in our hearts. And when our hearts need to release what is heavy, this is what we shall do. We will be fearlessly fragile and be reborn again.
Understanding your fragility will unlock the door to your fears. It will allow you to feel pain but not become it but understand that it’s our spirit’s way to learn; we will heal. All your inner being knows is love and with this, a deep vulnerability exists. It’s uncomfortable and it can be disappointing and painful. But it truly is the only constant and purest gift every being has at their grasp. To feel all of life’s unpleasant and desirable emotions. Some that will rock you off your axis and others that will elevate you to new heights.
When we, you confront your fragility. Throw your hands up to the cosmos and surrender to it all. Allow the moment to be as it is and teach you, enrich you. It’s easier to live
